Wednesday, June 24, 2020

Post Traumatic Growth - Resiliency- Parshat Shelach l'cha


The Torah portion we just heard read in Hebrew along with the English translation tells of the reports given by two groups of spies who went into the Land of Canaan to scout it out!  The larger group of 10 came back with a very negative view of the Israelite’s ability to successfully settle in the land. Their words sewed fear and doubt in the hearts of those who heard them.  The smaller group of 2 came back with a very positive view of their ability to enter Canaan. They spoke words that built the morale of the listeners.

Some might look at the report given by the 10 spies and claim that it was fake news.  It was designed to promote a point of view that would merely align with the thoughts of the individuals back in the camp who still wished that they had never left Egypt.  Some might say that the 10 men selected for the job of scouting out the land were not qualified to do so in the first place.  They were only chosen because of their high status within the group.  They were chosen because they were the princes of the tribes, not because they were skilled at the task that they were sent to accomplish.  In the Babylonian Talmud, Sotah 35 a, a different interpretation was given. It was felt that if the ten “ came back with evil counsel, they must have gone with evil counsel too.”  “ In other words, the ten wicked scouts must have left on their mission predisposed to the notion that the Land was inhospitable — and everything they saw there only confirmed that bias.” (Rabbi Joseph A Skloot)

A key to understanding the pessimism of the 10 spies is that they viewed themselves as weak.   “We saw the Nefilim there – the Anakim – we looked grasshoppers to ourselves and so we must have looked to them.” It is not that they didn’t see a land flowing with milk and honey just as Caleb and Joshua did, it is that they saw themselves as being weak.  Joshua and Caleb did not negate the report of seeing the challenges in the land, yet their response was, “Aloh na’aleh – let us go up and gain possession of it…” In other words, they were basically saying: “We can face any challenge.” Because they saw the Israelites as strong – they believed they could succeed. (Rabbi Mark Greenspan)  Joshua and Caleb exhibited the courage to try.

What a difference there was between the two attitudes of each of these groups, seeing the same sights, experiencing the same land, yet coming up with totally different interpretations of what should and could happen next. 

Sometimes I wonder why one set of individuals approached life as pessimists and the other approached life as optimists.  One explanation I read this week stated that the spies “had just escaped from Egypt and a life of slavery.  Experiences like that were not easily forgotten.  Indeed, after some 200 years of oppression and back-breaking labor, they had no experience with what “normal” or what “freedom” should feel like.” In their eyes as a result of the experience of slavery, they saw themselves as small, like grasshoppers (Rabbi Foster Kawaler) Joshua and Caleb on the other hand, focused instead on their recent experience at Sinai which left them feeling that the promises of HaShem would continue to lift them out of the drudgery of slavery that they had experienced.

I wonder if a psychologist were to look at the ten spies today, if they would not say that they were suffering from PTSD, post traumatic stress syndrome.  Their approach to the future was colored by their experience of the past which was without hope until G-d redeemed the Israelites from their bondage in Egypt.  But even with the redemption there was not smooth sailing.  They were chased by chariots filled with Pharoah’s men, spent time in a wilderness where their only sustenance was provided by G-d.  They had not learned to trust, to have bitachon, active faith in G-d.  The trauma of the past was crippling their move forward into the future. On the same hand, the psychologists might look at the two spies and label them as individuals who experienced post traumatic growth.  In other words, they too experienced the demeaning stress of slavery, the chariots chasing them towards the Sea of Reeds, and the only sustenance in the wilderness being provided by G-d.  Perhaps it is possible that what they learned from their experiences was that as awful as these circumstances were, they were able to persevere. They seem to have figured out that they were up to the challenges they would meet and they could place their trust in G-d .

In modern terminology Joshua and Caleb exhibited resiliency.  Joshua was able to go on to become a true leader of the Israelites because he had what it takes to focus on the positive under trying conditions.  He had the self-confidence to take on a challenging task. He also had optimistic expectations about succeeding in the future, and hope, namely the ability to persevere towards his goals.

How does Judaism help us adapt well in the face of adversity, trauma, tragedy, threats and even significant sources of stress?”  Think about the crises and renewal scenarios with which we have been faced.

What about humor?  How does that help the Jewish psyche?
What adaptations has Judaism made over the centuries that you think have added to our resiliency?

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